Break the Silence

As I was thinking what could be the one thing about women that I would wanna ‘Break the silence’ about,it made me overwhelmed because literally everything related to women needs a change.

Because everything related to her, is and has been a taboo!

I wondered,Where is the inception?

Then it struck,it begins with the Casual sexism we are believed to accept as ‘fate’ right since birth.

A woman is brought up as someone else’s ‘property’,brought up for the sake of her future husband.

Forced to feel as a liability for being physically weak or for the reason that she’s to be protected from the world’s evil or simply dowry!

Limiting her access to quality food and education,teaching chores for the sake of her future family,her childhood is lost from basic upbringing.

Even if the modern woman marries an equal, professionally, she’s expected to excel at home making,baby rearing and what not but still be considered less contributing .

But does any one expect anything from her husband?

She’s believed to ‘need’ a man,passed from one generation to another for male support, be it father,husband or son!

And if someone tries being self sufficient and alone, she’s taken for granted, sexually,professionally.

Treated as an alien in her parent’s place and also in her in laws place.

Never an heir,but treated like a baby making machine.

Supposed to adjust and endure.

And if she tries to raise her voice,she’s a Feminazi or ‘not marriage material’

Her identity is hidden under ‘daughter of (D/O) or wife of (w/o)’

How many of us came across a wedding invitation, addressed to a woman?

No one is happy with her birth,but the Family honour is linked to the purity of her Vagina.

She is so much unwanted that she’s killed even before she’s born and there had to be a legal act to stop her murder!

When did her life become so cheap?

Behind every successful woman there’s a broken little girl who had to work twice as hard as any other man.

She is a dreamer, a thinker and a doer,but still her ability is limited to a kitchen

Why should someone else decide what she does with her life, when she is an own person of herself.

Why is a feminist seen as a criminal for asking minimum basic equal rights of sustenance?

We are conditioned to turn a blind eye towards this casual sexism.

This is the casual sexism no one talks about, but needs to be stopped.

#BreakTheSilence and identify the elephant in the room and address the situation.

It’s high time!

Before we change the world,let’s change our homes,bring equality there,you can’t conquer the world with your own house in shambles,could you?

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Pregnancy in the times of Corona

These are some tricky times,and very unexpexcted ones as well.

I know it would be both scary and disappointing at the same time.There might have been plans for maternity shoots or baby showers which got awry,whilst alarming news regarding COVID 19 has kept you on the edge.

read this blog for all the info.

1.Are pregnant women at high risk?

well,it has been deemed that pregnancy does make you high risk due to the altered immune system.But it is expected that large majority of the women who do get infected will only have mild to moderate flu like symptoms only.

2.If diagnosed with covid what will happen to my baby?

Not to worry!although this is a fairly new virus and its effects havent been vastly studied,but so far the chances of miscarriage are next to nil.Also the chances of direct tranmission from mother to baby are very less.

3.If by chance the baby does get the infection,what then?

surprisingly,babies that contracted the infection have recovered well compared to adults.

4.Can I Breast feed my baby if I’m infected?

Yes!You can keep breast feeding the baby even if you’re positive following rules of disinfection like wearing a mask whoile feedin and washing hands properly before handling the baby.

5.What are the precautions that i need to take to avoid the infection?

*Follow strict isolation.

*Strictly follow all rules of disinfection like frequnetly washing hands for 20 secs,using tissues to cover your face at home when you or any family member is sneezing

* work from home when possible.

*Avoid social interaction with relatives or friends

*Avoid hugging or kissing anyone especially if they have been actively going out for groceries or some work.

6.I’m in my 1st/2nd trimester,what about my Antenatal visits?

For now,stay at home unless its an emergency.

Most of the times,in the first trimester and even in the second trimester,you may not need any consultation in person and can be done via online communication.

you may have to go for scans around 12 weeks and 22 weeks  which are very important.

then take prior appointment and go for the scan when the rush is less and strictly follow rules of disinfection.

All to be done under your doctor’s advice only.

7.I’m term and can pop out anytime,what to do?

>Don’t panic

>keep your hospital bag ready.

>keep the info peratining to the near by hospitals,ambulance availability,emergency facilities and availability of doctors in  multiple hospitals

>only one family member might be allowed with you,so make sure that person is available readily.

8.What if I give birth during these conditions?

>worry not! Hospitals are following all rules of disinfection and they will take care of you and your baby.

9.I have an elder child,can I take him along during delivery?

It isn’t advisable to take another toddler to the hospital,so make surfe you have somone to look after him while you are at the hospital.

but,if no one is available,the process is goiung to be tough for your both’s care taker!

the toddler should be taken care of to avoid hospital infections as well!

10.Can people come visit my baby?

in the present conditions,NO!

Use online social plaforms to introduce your baby to the world.

Also try to relax and take proper care of yourself,all this could be mentally exhausting,take carer of your mental health also.

Stay in touch with your friends and family via phone.

It is a good time to spend with your partner,use it!!

After the baby arrives,the equations are gonna change.

This covid situation can be our new normal,so accept it,Mental health is very important too.

This too shall pass!!

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Post partum depression

Post partum depression in India.

It is high time we spoke openly about a very common pregnancy related mental health disorder-Post partum depression.

Did you know that PPD affects 22% of women who have given birth in INDIA?

And its incidence is on a raise in urban population.

What exactly is PPD?

New moms experience mood changes,sadness,anxiety,crying spells in the first 2 weeks of pregnancy.

It is called post partum blues.

Sometimes,this can get stronger and may even extend upto 1 year.

Then it is called Post partum depression.(ppd)

Why does it occur?

Think of it like a complication of pregnancy,which isn’t in our control,so it isn’t a character flaw rather a side effect of hormonal changes during pregnancy and post partum.

The INDIAN scenario

The incidence is more in southern states followed by eastern,western and finally northern states.

The sad part is even if 22 women out of 100 are suffering from this,very few come forward to actually seek help.

The women think of it as a social taboo.

And most of the women are made to sit at home along with the baby,this seclusion at home itself is a lot detrimental to women.

After delivery,all the focus turns towards the new born, leaving very little attention towards the mother,who needs equal love at this stage.

Most of the women don’t even go for post natal visits rather depend on the elderly lady who just keeps rambling stuff to do and not do after delivery.

The most important of all NO PRIORITY TO MOTHER’S MENTAL OR PHYSICAL HEALTH is given and it is expected that she blooms with motherhood the instant she delivers.

What can we do?

India does have a national mental health programme drafted in 1982 but it is largely deficient in maternal mental health.

There isn’t any screening method to diagnose these cases before hand.

So the burden of detecting and reaching out for help falls on us.

We need to see for the risk factors first.

All these are from the studies in Indian population.

Financial difficulties Lack of support from family
Domestic violence Recent stressful event
Marital conflict Sick/death of the baby
Lack of support from husband Previous female child
Birth of a female baby Low maternal education
Mother having a psychiatric illness High parity
Unwanted pregnancy  

For new moms and family-

if you see the following in a new mom then reach out for help

  • Depressed mood or severe mood swings
  • Excessive crying
  • Difficulty bonding with your baby
  • Withdrawing from family and friends
  • Loss of appetite or eating much more than usual
  • Inability to sleep (insomnia) or sleeping too much
  • Overwhelming fatigue or loss of energy
  • Reduced interest and pleasure in activities you used to enjoy
  • Intense irritability and anger
  • Fear that you’re not a good mother
  • Hopelessness
  • Feelings of worthlessness, shame, guilt or inadequacy
  • Diminished ability to think clearly, concentrate or make decisions
  • Restlessness
  • Severe anxiety and panic attacks
  • Thoughts of harming yourself or your baby
  • Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
  • Untreated, postpartum depression may last for many months or longer.

Postpartum psychosis

With postpartum psychosis — a rare condition that typically develops within the first week after delivery — the signs and symptoms are severe. Signs and symptoms may include:

Confusion and disorientation

Obsessive thoughts about your baby

Hallucinations and delusions

Sleep disturbances

Excessive energy and agitation


Attempts to harm yourself or your baby

Postpartum psychosis may lead to life-threatening thoughts or behaviors and requires immediate treatment.

Is there any way so that the mom can diagnose herself?

yes, there is a scoring system called Edinburgh post natal depression scale


this is a direct link to check for yourself.

Any value more than 9 should be sought after for medical help.

Dear mothers,to be mothers and everyone who’s reading this.

If you went through the risk factors,most of the cases emerge from lack of support from the family,especially the husband.

I can’t stress enough how our society has made it very difficult for the mom to seek for the basic help.

Mothers are expected to be a guide book to the baby.

It is very important to remember that she’s equally as new as you to the baby,especially the first timers,although the chances of ppd are high in multi moms.

Please listen to her when she says she needs help or that she’s anxious or that she’s feeling helpless.

Don’t start with ‘that’s what happens when you are a mom,you are supposed to do this or that’

Sometimes just listening and saying ‘I care’ matters a lot.

Don’t generalise her feelings, don’t say it will just go away.

Help a new mom as much as you can.

And give her the same attention you gave whe she was pregnant.

Most of the new moms seek extra love from their husbands.

I wrote this blog when a few moms posted that ‘PPD is a myth’ and ‘what are the values that we are going to set to the coming generation’

Why are we obsessed about the next generation when we aren’t able to properly support the present one?

Stop making it a social stigma. STOP JUDGING OTHERS!!!

Seeking for medical help is the basic right for every human being and mental health no matter how much you ignore, it needs special attention.So STOP LABELLING!


Pregnancy Brain

Pregnancy brain!

To all the mommas and to be mommas who are wondering if pregnancy brain is a thing,then it’s a big YES!

And who didn’t know until now, lemme explain what this blog is all about.

Pregnant women experience a lapse in attention and memory,famously called as ‘pregnancy brain or momnesia’

about 80% of the pregnant women complain either forgetfulness or poor concentration or simply not feeling sharp.

Almost 4 out of 5 women especially in their 3rd trimester complain it.

So there were many,many,maaaany studies on this topic and most of them hint towards the changes happening.

I trusted it because I found myself facing similar problems myself.

Before you freak out about doing something wrong at your job, relax!

It has been shown that there might ne minor lapses like forgetting stuff,but there wont be much of an impairment in your overall performance.

Also, these changes may start in the 1st trimester itself but they may not be apparent until 3rd trimester.

Why the pregnancy brain???

It has been studied that the gray matter of brain shrinks in pregnancy and the areas which are for important stuff related to child rearing like bonding and social cognition are strengthened.

The volumes of hypothalamus, striatum and amygdala (all parts of the brain) increase whose function is emotional regulation and parental motivation.

Size of hippocampus decreases leading to loss of memory.

The highlight is,the changes in the hippocampus took 2 years to reverse.

Along with these changes estrogen, progesterone and oxytocin marinate your brain in pregnancy which heighten the maternal responses.

Does it go away completely?

it is still not known if the brain function returns to normal after giving birth.

Studies are still going on to find out.

Also,the changes got pronounced with each pregnancy.

There were no changes in IQ but there were definitely changes in Priorities!


There’s nothing to be scared of.

Its just the nature’s way of preparing you for motherhood.

Along with these changes there will be improvements in attention, foraging and planning.

Let’s think of this,in this way,your pregnancy gives you super power to make you a ‘super mom’


If you are experiencing forgetfulness, then,

  • Keep alarms for stuff to do.
  • Make a to do list and keep it in a place that you notice every time (otherwise you may forget the list, D-uh!)
  • Make a schedule of meetings and get notified so as not to miss your appointments
  • Take help of your near and dear ones (take help of mom and mom in laws, they love telling you what to do. just kidding! Am I though? )

All the hormones go bonkers in pregnancy. They make you depressed, forgetful, emotional but their ulterior motive is to make you ready for motherhood.

They want the baby to be your utmost importance. They want you to be on your  toes to attend to them immediately, they want you to show the baby love like no one else existed.

And,all these changes are more prominent in a first time mom.

Wanna know a funny thing?

New fathers didn’t show any such changes at all. No wonder fatherhood isn’t instant,so cut those poor fellas some slack.He may be freaking out for all we know.

After all these, my kids gotta give me a medal or something.

oh wait, they better not, I’ll forget it anyway (he he, pregnancy brainer myself)


Cord blood banking

Cord blood banking

If you attend hospitals for regular check ups you may find lots of posters asking you to store cord blood cells in their banks.

Along with it comes the doubt, to bank or not to bank.

It’s a moral dilemma questioning you as a parent even before child birth.

This blog is to give you clarity regarding the uses of cord blood banking.

What exactly are cord blood cells?

The cord blood has cells with special abilities.

Abilities to transform into other cells.

How Is this blood collected?

Immediately after delivery the blood from the cord and placenta is collected in a specialised bag, which is taken by the assigned personnel for banking.

Takes around 10-15 minutes to collect.

Obviously It’s painless.

How does banking help?

Cord blood has the capacity to treat over 70 diseases including diseases of the immune system, genetic disorders, neurologic disorders, and some forms of cancer, including leukemia and lymphoma.

Are there any cons of cord blood banking?

The thing is cord blood can’t be used in case of genetic disease in the same person. For example, if the person has leukemia these cells can’t help as they too have potential to become cancerous as they carry same genes.

Then what’s the use of banking at all?

They do help in strengthening the immune system in some cancer treatments.

Also, these banked cells can be used for treatment for other people who match the requirements.

Similarly, we can use other’s banked cells when our cells can’t be of help to the baby.

A big plus is that they have low rejection rate compared to other stem cells like that of bone marrow.

How can this be available to the public?

There could be public banks and private banks.

Most of the ones available in India are private banks which need a certain amount of fee to be paid for long term banking.

In case of public banks, we can make donations to them too.

How to know if the blood collected is adequate?

Usually the bags will be labelled with certain level of marking for the blood to be collected.

In case the blood was rather made to flow into the baby after delivery then there might not be enough blood collected.

Sometimes, in case of an emergency where there is any impending danger to you or the baby then they may not have the time to collect the blood too.

Is it a necessity?

Its not a necessity and its totally upon your discretion to bank or not.

Then when should I do it?

If any of your family member is suffering from any genetic or hereditary disease which can be treated with cord blood cells then get them banked.

Or you can do it just as a future precaution, because there are instances where blood cells of baby have been used to treat their grandparent’s diseases.

I already banked for my elder kid,should I do it again for second pregnancy?

Another plus of cord blood banking is that siblings can be treated even if cells of one person are available.

So, if you have a confirmation that the previous cells are well maintained then you needn’t get it banked again.

Yes, cord blood banking seems not reliable.

Have a proper talk with the bank personnel on how they are maintaining the samples.

It isn’t an absolute necessity and without any family history the cells may never come in handy either.
But, if you are a planner who plays safe then go ahead and bank the cells.

You never know how can they be useful on the long term.

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Contraception after delivery

From the overwhelming joy of becoming a mom to tiresome nights to gradually getting acquainted to the baby to getting back to SEXUAL LIFE, is a hell of a ride.

And as you go on to getting back to normal,the fear of another pregnancy creeps you out.

so what to do, how to avoid another pregnancy????

Did you know that women tend to have no periods after delivery?

 it is called ‘Lactational amenorrhoea’

the nature gives women a safe period of 6 months with the help of hormones to avoid pregnancy,sometimes this may extend beyond one year too.

But this comes with risks of its own.

The hormone levels may not stay the same for all women and a few tend to have regular ovulatory cycles leading to accidental pregnancy when had unprotected sex.


 The following are the options that you can choose.

  • Condoms-simple barrier method,has high success rate but chances of tearing away or heat of the moment slip aways are more.
  • Hormonal pills-as you will be lactating the regular OCPills aren’t prescribed,PROGESTERONE ONLY PILLS are prescribed as they don’t hinder in breast milk production or quality.But they have a set of rules to be followed that can lead to failure of pills if not followed properly.
  • Injectable hormones-The same progesterone acting drug is available in an injection form.Good thing is injection needs to be injected every 3 months once.Bad thing isit may cause menstrual problems and also we don’t know when its effect will wean off.
  • IUD-stands for intra uterine device,one of the safest of all methods.It could be a loop or it could be COPPER-T.Good thing is it can be inserted once and forgotten for a few years giving time to plan next pregnancy and have unprotected intercourse.Bad thing is they may cause menstrual irregularities,infection,some may have allergic reactions,rarely ectopic have known to occur.
  • Sterilization-if you are done with reproducing and have completed your family,then you or your partner may get sterilized via tubectomy or vasectomy.

so these are the simple and easily available methods.

It is necessary that you give a minimum of 3 years for your body to heal from the trauma of pregnancy.

Due to lack of resources, information and embarrassment of asking the doctor regarding sexual life, many women tend to get pregnant immediately after delivery and either resort to getting illegally aborted or continue at the expense of own health.

The doctors are here to help you. Have a talk with your gynaecologist regarding various options available and which are suitable to you both mentally and physically.

Talk to them regarding pros and cons and choose accordingly.

Always remember, Prevention is better than cure!

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Vaginal birth after cesarean(vbac)

Vaginal birth after Cesarean Delivery (VBAC)

Thanks to recent advents and availability of emergency and elective caesarean section,most of the difficult deliveries which could have been traumatic and detrimental to both mother and baby are averted reducing the morbidity and mortality in both.

But many women still want to have the natural birth experience and also want to avoid surgery for obvious reasons.


According to recent studies, among women who take TOLAC (trial of labour after caesarean) 60-80% have chances of normal vaginal delivery.

Firstly, what is TOLAC?

See, women who are willing to under go VBAC have to pass a few criteria, after that a trial of labour is given with a backup of emergency caesarean, so that if either the mother or the baby are in jeopardy, the process can be stopped right away and surgery done.

Criteria for VBAC

I want to explain you all in as simple terms as possible.

The doctor has a few selection criteria where both maternal and fetal factors are taken into consideration.

Maternal factors-

  • the mother is motivated
  • gap between the pregnancies is ideally 3 years
  • preferably had one previous vaginal delivery
  • has good pelvic dimensions
  • previous surgery was uncomplicated, includes pre and postoperative periods were good.
  • Low transverse caesarean section (it is a mode of surgery, you better have your operative details from previous surgery)
  • No previous history of scar rupture.
  • No other uterine surgeries (like done for fibroids etc)
  • Spontaneous labour pains
  • No anaemia or hypertension in the mother.
  • Previous scar is thick

Baby factors-

  • The baby should be average size compared to the pelvis
  • Should be in cephalic position
  • No malposition like breech,transverse lie etc
  • No cord prolapse or cord presentation(the cord comes out or eady to pop out before the baby repectively)
  • No associated complications like placenta previa,cervical fibroids,vulval and vaginal infections etc

Above all it also depends on the facilities available in the hospital for emergency surgery and also competence of the doctor.

The above are a few basic factors involved in selecting a candidate suitable for VBAC.


Every procedure has its set of pros and cons, so does VBAC.

  • Rupture uterus-even if the gap has been 3 years or more,sometimes rupture can occur during delivery.
  • In case of a rupture, the placenta separates leading to fall in heart rate of the baby and the baby may land in jeopardy.
  • The mother can also go into shock due to massive haemorrhage of rupture.
  • The mother may need blood transfusion.

What can you do from your side?

It is important that you can mentally prepared for all consequences. You can’t half-heartedly give a trial. Motivation plays a huge factor.

Have a detailed discussion with your Doctor.

Talk about pros and cons and especially what complications you can face in your condition.

Start taking iron and folic acid medications atleast 3 months before getting pregnant.

Take high protein diet and prepare your body for the situation.

Have blood reserved in blood bank near term for any unforeseen circumstances.

Know before hand how labour pains will feel and if you are willing to bear them or take epidural anaesthesia.How and when you should bear down.

Get regular scans as advised by your doctor especially to know baby anomalies, fetal weight ,placental position and most importantly scar thickness.

I know every mother cherishes the dream of a vaginal delivery no matter what hassles she has to face.

It is important that rather than flowing in the emotion of vaginal birth, take your health into consideration as well as baby’s.

Planning ahead helps you and prepares you!

And yes,VBAC is a big deal, talk about it,be proud of it and thank your super baby for getting you a successful one!!!


Epidural anesthesia in Labour

Every mother has a birth story and most of it revolves around labour pains.

Although there are a few women who love having labour pains and smile through all of them,most of them say its their worst night mare ever.

Thankfully, these days most of the hospitals have the option of Epidural analgesia during labour.But there have been lots of doubts and fears among pregnant women to opt for them or not.

Lets get to know about it in detail then.

What is epidural analgesia in labour anyway?

It is a way to deliver an anesthetic drug into your epidural space which covers your spinal cord there by numbing the pain sensations caused by labour pains.

So,there wont be no pain at all?

Yes,although it depends on the amount of anesthetic drug used. Based on the dose you can either have a little pain or no pain at all.

How exactly is epidural given?

A special needle is used and a thin plastic tube is introduced into the epidural space of the lower lumbar area .

This tube is used to administer the anesthetic.

A single of anesthetic is enough for the entire labour?

No,a single dose isn’t enough.

The doctor may keep administering a small dose of the drug after the effect of the given drug weans off.

Sometimes,instead of this a pump is attached to the tube which continuously administers a small amount drug.

How long will it take for the pains to reduce?

It takes around 10-20 minutes for the epidural to act and decrease the pain intensity.

Are there any side effects?

  • Itching-a few drugs cause itching due to allergy,but changing the drug can be done then.
  • Low BP-there are chances of nausea and dizziness due to low bp
  • Headache-sometimes,the dura are punctured leading to leaking of spinal fluid causing headache,but the chances are less.

You will be catheterised with a foley’s catheter as there will be having difficulty in urinating.

Does epidural affect the baby?

Any drug given to the mother will reach the baby via umbilical cord,but this doesn’t have any effect on the baby.

They say,epidural leads to caesarean,is that true?


Although it prolongs the labour process,it doesn’t always lead to caesarean section.

The chances of instrumental delivery are high when epidural is used.

Delivery may require ventouse or forceps to extract the baby.

Why instrumental delivery,can’t I push?

Actually if you are well prepared you can push.

Some doctors prefer giving a bit of pain stimulus during the last stage delivery so that you get an idea whn exactly to push.

Otherwise usually your contractions are monitored on CTG machine and the doctors will let you know when to push.

I fear I may have back pain in the future due to epidural.

It is a general myth that women who take spinal or epidural get back ache in the future but it is FALSE.

There aren’t any long term side effects due to epidural.


Labour is a very stressful process,there are many warrior moms who like to endure the pain stating not only it is natural but also the only right way to deliver.

Remember,you are no less a warrior for taking epidural analgesia.Not everyone has the same tolerance to pain and its no crime to ask  for epidural.

After all the baby will be better taken care of if the mumma is feeling better.Right?

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Should you be worried about your child’s complexion?

Should you be worried about your baby’s

“What do i do to improve my baby’s colour?”

My baby was very fair at birth,now lost all the colour,why?

Any medicines or oils or creams to improve the complexion?

homeremedies to improve the colour”

If you have been to any maternity&child care online portals,these are probably
the commonest questions you’ve come across.
Firstly,lemme be clear.The birth colour of the baby is not permanent and its
obviously not the “real” colour of the teeny bopper.
The newborn skin undergoes a lot of changes post birth.
There will be drying,scaling and finally peeling off of skin.
In case,the baby is a growth restricted one,it has the typical “old man’s look” as it
is famously called.These babies have a very dry and dark skin as well.

Mind you! these are not permanent.
Babies are covered by ‘vernix caseosa’ ,which is white sticky material,also gives
whitish tinge to the baby.As you keep bathing the baby this goes away.
Babies are covered by lanugo hair,spreading across the entire body but mostly
prominent over the arms and face.It sometimes gives a false ‘dark coloured’
These hair too get eventually cleared away as the baby grows.

What to do?
Do absolutely NOTHING!!!

Please don’t resort to aesthetics and put your baby to strain.
Babies are cute no matter what.And you worrying about the complexion is kind
of degrading your baby.
As the baby grows,the natural colour slowly sets in.
You can instead give highly nutritious food to increase the strength and
immunity and in return automatically your baby/kid looks healthy and also
less prone to diseases.
As the kids reach puberty their body undergoes many changes and the physique
and complexion is totally different.
Also,don’t restrain kids from outdoor games,swimming etc out of fear of losing
colour.You will be limiting their childhood.They will instead resort to a bad
lifestyle of mobiles and video games.
The blame is totally on you then.

*Never ever use haldi,besan or anything along with milk to apply to the
baby. It blocks the skin pores and inturn increases skin infections
*Never use oils,especially for long standing periods,they are very difficult
to clean.
*Never use bleaching agents or soaps containing them,you are simply
ruining the baby’s tender skin.
*Never use honey and lemon,they are bleaching agents.

Also,never criticise your kid later on.It will only make them lose their confidence.

Never body shame them.

Motherhood already comes with a lot of new emotions and experiences to deal with,be it first time or any number of times.Don’t strain yourself over nothing.Colour is never a flaw and we should teach this to ourselves and the kids.

Teach them to love themselves.

After all everybody is unique.

And EVERY BABY is beautiful.


Sex during pregnancy

Sex in pregnancy
Is sex during pregnancy dangerous?
Does sex during pregnancy cause penis envy if i have a daughter?
Will the baby get any infections in such a case?
Are we ‘permitted’ to have sex in pregnancy?Isn’t it a sin?
These are probably the most common questions asked to a gynecologist.
Okay.Lets get to them one by one.
Firstly,sex or coitus has been seen as a taboo,discussing anything remotely
near to it is frowned upon in India.
And its a common misconception taught to us by the elders that having sex
in pregnancy is prohibited.
Its seen as a 9 month break!So much so that even the so called modern t.v
still preaches in many of its programmes/videos that its forbidden.
Sex in general is a physical need,sometimes emotional too.
Infact,in the first trimester women have increased sexual drives thanks to
the hormones.
Aaand,nope!its not forbidden.
Having sex is healthy.
So,is it dangerous???
Unless,your’s is a complicated pregnancy,there isn’t anything remotely
dangerous to the baby or you.

The baby wont be harmed due to the semen or vaginal secretions.
its pretty well guarded inside there. 🙂
Will the penis poke the baby?
Nope,the baby doesn’t come in contact with the penis anywhere during sex.
thanks to the human anatomy,the cervix is a very tough structure which is
pretty strongly closed until its the delivery time.
and for the same reason the baby wont have penis envy either as imagined.Its an entirely different scenario when it comes to penis envy.

Is it a sin?
This is where i cant help you.
The religious beliefs might hinder you.
It’s totally your call.

Now,there are certain conditions you must avoid sex.
If you had noticed before,I highlighted the word “complicated pregnancy
In pregnancies,complications such as
* cervical incompetence

* placenta previa
* cervical cancer
* premature rupture of membranes(prom)
* twin pregnancy,polyhydromnios with open n short cervix
* vaginal infections
* threatened abortion
* threatened preterm labour etc

the above are few instances you have to keep in mind.
i shall discuss about each of the above complications in detail in other
but,its always better and safe if you discuss with your doctor beforehand.
now,go haffun 😉